Do you ever have Fat Thoughts?
Do you have thoughts of judgement about your body image, about being fat or thoughts about out other people out in the world being fat?
Guess what...those thoughts actually keep you fat!
Yep, those thoughts eventually make you want to eat when you are not hungry!
Of all the weight loss tips this is one that is never mentioned and without it you will stay stuck in hating your body image!
Now that I know better, I think fat thoughts are really mean thoughts that dramatically affect your body image and self esteem! They originate from the immature ego part of yourself that is not your friend. This is the part of ourselves that we must learn to master- it is a big part of what keeps us fat!
You will see why....
Fat thoughts happen in part because.....
You think.... if you hate yourself or the fat on your body enough it will force you to stop eating and loose weight, right?
In fact most often Fat Thoughts make you eat more eventually, now or later.
Do you see why this is one of the important weight loss tips?
(see: Yo-Yo Diet Cycle)
Here is why Fat Thoughts happen:
1. OUR FEELINGS SOMETIMES ARE LESS THAN IDEAL
We each have a particular
self-image. It makes us anxious to think
of ourselves as not living up to our ideals. Plus we all fear being rejected or judged by others.
Instead of experiencing the let down and dealing with the possibility that your expectations of yourself are unrealistic you think Fat Thoughts about yourself.
You forget that circumstances have simply prevented you from having something you want and day by day that can change, you think Fat Thoughts and then....... you eat eventually to comfort yourself (usually without hunger).
2. FORBIDDEN FEELINGS
These have to do with notions we
developed as children.
Some compulsive eaters fear the forbidden emotion of anger, others fear lust, and still others fear jealousy.
The list is as endless as the variety of emotions you can feel and often they get translated into Fat Thoughts.
Regardless , we continue to fear what we consider to be unacceptable thoughts, feelings,needs, desires and wishes.
Compulsive eaters attempt to erase these thoughts with food before even realizing that you have them. Or the ego mind simply translates them to Fat Thoughts and then you eat to soothe the uncomfortable feeling the Fat Thoughts create.
3. YOU HAVE STRONG FEELINGS
Some of us are less concerned with the acceptability of the thought or feeling than with the intensity, fearing we will be overwhelmed by them.
"If I feel sad, I'll never stop being depressed." "If I get angry, I'll go out of control."
Compulsive eaters also fear a change in the status quo. Any strong feeling or change results in the reach for food (regardless if there is hunger).
We are in need of a better method of having feelings come and go, and experiencing the fact that we are still here, we are “ok”, strong feelings never "kill" anyone, they just feel strong for a bit of time.
All of these situations occur because we make food magic - we give it magical powers.
This is a realization you won't hear about in other programs it is one of the best weight loss tips.
This is much the same way that a child's Teddy Bear represents all the care and support that its’ owner has known or wanted.
Food can represent mother, father, family, love, safety, escape, strength, comfort, power, support, and on and on.
The problem is that food is not mother, father, family, love, safety, strength, comfort, power, support, and so on.
While these are symbols, with the power to make us feel safe, food is not the same as any of these other symbols.
When food is used for comfort, its proper function is neglected entirely and it becomes addicting instead of enabling ( giving us energy to move through the day and stay well).
A Teddy Bear helps a child make the transition from dependent care, to the knowledge s/he can ensure her/his own well-being.
The Teddy Bear is eventually left behind and
becomes no more special than any other stuffed toy. Or the child learns he/she can stop sucking their thumb.
Because the child realizes s/he can feel things and still be safe, feelings simply come and go.
Food, however, keeps us stuck, unable to get the real needs taken care of (see Universal Needs ).
When that happens, when you learn to translate the Fat Thoughts into the real issue in that moment, compulsive eating stops being the problem.
Then Fat Thoughts lessen over time and you will translate them more rapidly.
Here is what "the anatomy" of a fat thought looks like:
THE ANATOMY OF A FAT THOUGHT
1. YOU BEGIN WITH AN UNLABELED SENSE OF DISCOMFORT
2. YOU EAT TO DISTRACT YOURSELF-usually without true belly hunger- AND
TO TRY TO FEEL BETTER
3. AFTER YOU FINISH EATING YOU FEEL ANXIOUS and physically uncomfortable
4. YOU TRANSLATE YOUR ANXIETY INTO A FAT FEELING!
The uncomfortable feeling turns into a Fat Feeling AND Fat Thoughts (especially if you eat without hunger or beyond fullness).
These feelings/thoughts of being fat don’t help you, they just re-create the problem…… eating to soothe rather than for belly hunger!
5. YOU EXPERIENCE PAINFUL THOUGHTS... ABOUT WHAT YOU JUST ATE, YOUR WEIGHT, OR HOW YOUR BODY LOOKS.
You have just made the TRANSLATION from the language of feelings into the language of FAT Thoughts and negative judgment of yourself and your body!
Compulsive eating is a way of coping with discomfort and a low Sense Of Self by translating complex concerns into an obsessive preoccupation with eating, weight and body size.
You are telling the truth, but in TRANSLATION!
You are referring to something else that you feel bad about.
You eat through the difficulty or yell at yourself about your size and weight.
Then you say the problem is fat on your body (it didn’t appear overnight!), instead of recognizing that you are really Believing something that is not the Total truth, or you are Feeling something you don't know how to feel yet, or you are Needing something.
So you beat up your body by judging it with Fat Thoughts and this doesn't do anything but make you eat.
You must STOP IT!
Translate the fat thoughts back to the real truth of what is going on inside you right now.
And stop judging others in the world that are large also. When you judge them you fuel the fear of being fat.
You don't know their story, they have probably dieted themselves into being fat, that is what diets do.
Yes..... DIETS MAKE US FAT! Diets create the Yo-Yo diet cycle.
Stop judging yourself and others and change your FAT Thoughts!
Learn to eat in connection with your inherent belly wisdom it can never misguide you, it can't trick you like the mind (ego)does.
It is the one thing you can count on to guide you out of yo-yo dieting and living a life where you take the excess weight off for life!
That is what this site and all the information here is all about!
I did it over 39 years ago, so can you!
Fat thoughts are just mean dehumanizing thoughts and they must be interrupted and translated in every way.
1.It is simpler to reduce all life's problems into an eating/weight problem.
Having fat thoughts, thinking about dieting, staying busy counting fats and calories is all MUCH EASIER than dealing directly with the sophisticated issues in our lives!
If you stop the fat thoughts, you break the circuit and can stop calling all your problems a fat problem.
Then you can really discover what you are needing, meet the need, and feel calmer while you practice conscious eating, and Responsive Eating
2. It could feel scary to stop translating all problems into an eating/weight problem.
If you stop your fat thoughts you will be challenged to come up with real solutions to life's challenges.
It can be overwhelming to begin trying to solve issues around relationships, parenting responsibilities, job security, financial needs, or emotional needs, or healing past traumas.
It feels so much easier to say the solution to dealing with my life is just simply to stay busy hating my body and thinking about dieting.
Until you take a look at the real issues nothing can change.
It is not as hard as it seems, many have “been there done that” and are free of eating and weight issues and have lost weight while translating Fat Thoughts.
3.You have grown accustomed to hating your body.
While having fat thoughts and hating your body is painful, it is for many of us the only way we know how to be with ourselves.
In a strange way keeping with the familiar...even when it is painful...can seem comforting.
And, most of us have very little information about how we might relate to our bodies' positively: we live in a culture where the sole theme is the suggestion that you should be very dissatisfied with your body (see Body Image).
Dieting, compulsive eating, and Fat Thoughts function as a way to keep people fat and distract them from having their feelings.
If you can stop dieting & interrupt your fat thoughts you can begin to identify the feelings & issues that lie beneath and take care of them.
Once you do that you are on your way to understanding yourself better. You will feel calmer, you will think more clearly, and you will be better able to direct your life in a way that optimizes your happiness!
This is one of the best weight loss tips you could learn!
What you can do differently?.
Once you notice the “Fat Thought”:
Remember the body is listening to you are thinking!
1.Apologize to yourself for insulting yourself.
2.Ask: WHAT AM I really NEEDING/Wanting (besides weight loss immediately) ?
3. WHAT AM I FEELING?
4. WHAT AM I THINKING/BELIEVING?
And Stay Fascinated, say to yourself with delight......
I am so fascinating, I am translating feelings into “fat thoughts”. I can figure this out and meet my real needs. I have to if I want to really lose weight and keep it off!
Here is a good and brief article for more reading:
6 Steps To a Better Body Image.