LEARNED FAMILY/CULTURAL EATING MESSAGES that trick you into eating beyond fullness and block intuitive eating.
If you hear your mind say these things or your family members say them to you ask yourself.....What does this have to do with my belly, it knows when to eat and when to stop!
The ego mind/mouth and old messages we believe can trick us, disconnecting us from our own guidance system within and intuitive eating.
Remembering what you were taught to believe and discerning the purpose of the belief while comparing it to what the belly tells us is the way back to our inner guidance, belly wisdom.
NOTE: Stop for a moment and reflect on your ideal for physical beauty in a person of your gender.
What image do you carry in your mind's eye? See if you can discover where your ideal came from.
Consider how you measure up to it, and whether it is even remotely within your grasp to measure up to it, given your natural resources and dieting history.
Consider these FACTS to undo some of your old beliefs and reconnect to intuitive eating.
The American Society, as
well as a growing number of other societies now, encourages the pursuit of
thinness as a way to achieve greater social power, control and status.
Beliefs in the medical community & the general public about diet & body size are not based in scientific research. The stigma of obesity is re-enforced with misinformation from the medical community.
See book: Big Fat Lies by Dr. Glazer
The media misinformation, or what people see on television, the internet, newspapers and magazines has become the single most pervasive source of Lifestyle & Health Information for Americans!
We live in a culture that is constantly chasing the false god of materialism and achievement. It is no Surprise then that many people are facing depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, and burnout.
Excerpted From Book-We Are Driven: The Compulsive Behaviors America Applauds
This intuitive eating plan will direct you to ask very different questions when you are thinking about eating like.....
Are you thinking about food often when you are not even hungry?
That is Mouth or Mind Hunger.
If the foods beckon you to come eat them or go get them.... then the ego is at work here.
You are being tricked by Mouth Hunger or the ego.
When you want to eat even though you are not physically hungry, it means “something is up” and wants your attention, it is a great teachable moment about yourself, don’t miss the message and simply eat.
Remember you are not even hungry.
You do not choose to have mouth hunger and you cannot simply will it away—but you can nurture it away!
When you are not hungry but reach for food, you are doing so because something inside you need help.
You are believing, feeling or needing something that needs to be addressed and or translated from the craving for food back to the real driver.
Compulsive eaters are people who chronically reach for help from food rather than from other people or within themselves.
All of us eat from mouth/mind hunger in an effort to sidestep the fear of loss or the essential pains that come and go in life.
Fear of loss is so deeply rooted in us since childhood: loss of life, loss of love, and loss of self-esteem etc.
The goal then is to get
better and better at simply feeling the original feeling moving through us,
like a necessary rinsing, rather than transforming it into mouth hunger eating without belly hunger.
Sometimes it is our inner wisdom telling us simple truths like “I am tired or thirsty” (send me an e-mail for the PDF of "Other Hungers" as an easy reminder). Sometimes it is much deeper, but either way it wants to be made known.
Ask yourself - What could I be…..
1. Believing (or Thinking) - about my body, food or my situation-stay fascinated (no judgement)and capture it, write it down (take it to your next therapy session) and challenge it with saying...
Who says that is the Truth? Where is the evidence for that in my life.....and what would my therapist or trusted friend say about that thought?
Afterwards always change your thinking “channel” by saying affirmations or positive self talk out loud (see: Self Talk Substitutes)
Again ask yourself what could I be……
2. Feeling--how can you let the feeling be expressed (emote), allow and pace that part of you and escort it to move through and out of you, afterwards always change your feeling “channel” by saying affirmations out loud.
3. Needing --see: Universal Needs List and write out possible options to get your needs met now or in the near future.
Stay Fascinated and learn from mouth hunger when it shows up. Touch your belly and distinguish between belly hunger and Mouth/Mind Hunger
This practice will radically change your eating and eventually your life in many other ways!
This intuitive eating plan includes teaching you how to distinguish between Mouth/Mind Hunger and Belly Hunger.
Without that knowledge and practice you will re-gain any lost weight and be tricked over and over by the ego and become a yo-yo dieter.
This way of intuitive eating will help you continue to distinguish between mouth/mind hunger and belly hunger.
All of us can eat from mouth/mind hunger in an effort to sidestep the fear of loss or the essential pains that come and go in life.
As an example we often translate our feelings into a fear we won't get the food we think is forbidden. So believing in forbidden foods is the part of problem also.
We just need to translate it back into the truth, this intuitive eating style includes this teaching.
Without this teaching you will be lost to binge eating or eating without hunger and weight gain.
The goal then is to get better and better at simply feeling the original feeling or sense of uneasiness moving through us, like a necessary rinsing, or a wave of feelings and/or information, rather than transforming it into mouth hunger and acting on it by eating without belly hunger.
Often Mouth/mind hunger is really our inner wisdom telling us simple truths like “I am tired or thirsty.
Sometimes it is much deeper, but either way it wants to be made known, understood and responded to (but not with food).